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General => The Lounge => Topic started by: zeemiller on July 19, 2012, 05:29:19 PM
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as the real world is full of nasty times , lack of consideration and selfishness is it best to block all this out as it will never change the world is how it is so if u live in a bubble and real try to block out the real world creating your own happy dream world when faced with the outside is this a good idea???
just seems life gets no easier and the levels of nastyness n selfishness by others get worse plus the web taking away the art of converstation, so in a dream world all would be happy all blocked out and only see the possative
just a random idea i guess but it seems only way as the world never changes.
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I dont think its possible to block it all out unless we live like hermits (which I admit is very attractive sometimes)
Z xx
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guess sumtimes when out shopping or in busy place have managed to block out stuff n daydream which actually helped
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I have done this too and yes it did help.
S x x x x
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I did this for a number of years over adoption issues and successfully 'blocked it out' or as I prefer to say I buried my feelings inside then 'hid the key'. When I found my son (he was adopted) without actively searching my world blew apart and I couldn't avoid it. On a personal level it hadn't been my best idea as I subsequently became a self harmer during those years as it was the only way to let the pain out. The physical injuries never hurt, I was letting go of the emotional pain. Although I had attempted once as a young teen I also had a few failed suicide attempts during my 20's and 30's.
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Zee…. I suppose sometimes it’s good – even necessary – to block out the world and its nasties for a while. As difficult and unappealing as it may seem sometimes, I think to live more in harmony with ourselves, we need to somehow find a way of dealing with life as we find it.
For me, this feels like a lifetimes work. Maybe we’ll never reach an all time “at one†with society, but we can learn so many invaluable lessons by trying, but only when we are ready
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I can sympathise with the idea, I just don't see any practical way it could work. I also wonder whether this life is merely a dream and we keep duping ourselves in to thinking this life is real and serious. Maybe what we want is to view our life as a dream.
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when out in the countryside (when quiet) its a total change from the harsh reality of busy day to day in towns n cities etc and does seem like a dream at times if could afford to live out in country side and just head into town for shopping ever so often im sure id do better in life just all affordable housing in poor areas n nice areas so unaffordable.
all films like superhero films and matrix etc all let ppl belive in the unbelivable things that cant happen but ppl need escapism from reality of life thats why i like the idea of dream world not all the time but part of the time 8-)
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Believe me living out in the sticks isnt as wonderful as many people think, everywhere has its pros and cons
Z xx
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We live just on the outskirts of town. Walk one way and there is countryside and the other way is the small town. S X x x x
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That sounds the best of both worlds, we're 2-3 miles from anything and get a lot of heavy farm machinery and lorries bombing backwards and forwards since they put a size limit in the next village to us but we do have advantages too :)
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That sounds idyllic to me. We would like to live further into the country. We could have more animals then. But its just to expensive. Wouldn't want to up our mortgage :( s x x x x
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We only have a teeny weeny bungalow but are lucky to have the land and stables, I'd love to have somewhere a bit bigger but couldnt afford it xx
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I've always been used to quiet places in Scotland... until 1995 when I came to live in inner London....eek.
Due to depression and 'stuff' I've not left my immediate vicinity for 11-12yrs. I long to walk in the countryside again and see/hear absolutely no one around me.
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I love walking in Scotland, the solitude is one of the lovely things about it
Z xx
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If I could I would sleep for hours, its very enjoyable but work gets in the way of my sleep time. I soon as come from work, I do house work, and then ake shower and eat dinner, then clean dishes, then get my work stuff ready for next day. Then its sleep thats the best part of my day.
I remember last Monday was the best sleep I had ever. I dont dream though.
Thanks
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Do you allow yourself a lay in at weekeds?
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no i work two jobs
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in response to an early post you made Zaf, I have dreamed of becoming a hermit many times but after my excursion to Italy for five weeks I realised it would be hard work. There are pros to living in a city. On days like today I wish I was away from everyone.
Also when I was out on Harris for 4 weeks, it was isolated but I should have been happy I had no internet or mobile phone signal but I wanted to go in the nearest village and use the library for internet and to get a signal on my phone. I think very few people can become true hermits, its a hard way of life.
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My dream is a little place in Scotland on the edge of a lodge, probably not practical now we're getting older but its sometimes nice to dream :)
I would definitely miss the internet, I think I would feel very isolated without it.
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Sometimes I dream about suicide.
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I dont think thats unusual when we're depressed :(
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Being Scottish, I've spent a lot of time touring the far north. The west coast of scotland have some of the most amazing golden sand beaches that stretch as far as the eye can see. Of course, it's cold (even in summer) so they do tend to be deserted. I use to visit the Isle of Skye camping every year for 2wks. It was before the mobile days, so my time was always completely secluded. I reckon my temperament is well suited to the hermit existance
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yes Cat there are some lovely beaches on the West Coast of Scotland eh. Have been a few place up there, was on Isle Of Rum with college for two weeks, Orkney for 3 weeks and 4 weeks on Harris. Also went to Ullapool and just north of there to Achmelvich which had a lovely,white sandy beach.
I think the long winters might get to me though. Its not easy. I sometimes wonder if I could survive up there somehow.
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I love walking in Scotland, the solitude is one of the lovely things about it
Z xx
I'd love to do that, but I live about 500 miles away so not possible at present. Went to Dundee once with my dad in his taxi as he had a fare to go there! We did a brief tour of Edinburgh and the east coast A1 but that was it.
Yes, Zaf, I'd really like to explore Scotland one day, do you go often?
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We used to go once or twice a year despite the 9 hour journey, when my dad was taken terminally ill about 5 or 6 years ago we stopped but are due to go up for a week at the beginning of September =+-
If you ever get a chance Beet do go, some of the wild empty places are fantastic
Z xx