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Depression Related Forums => Depression Central => Topic started by: mrmoody on June 09, 2012, 08:28:42 PM
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just so alone, rejected and fed up with it all. I know you all mean well but your far away and I am never gonna meet any of you. Oh I met one and look where that lead. dont people like realise that they reject people themselves and cause hurt in itself. Just dont think anyone will ever give a damn about me if I am here or not on this planet
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We may be far away but we do care &*(
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Zaf is right, we do care
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Alex you know we care &*( &*(
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We all care and although we are far away we're here for you
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I know you all do but your so far away. never gonna meet any of you in person am I. feel so alone.
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I understand Alex
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&*( &*( &*( for you Alex.
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I can feel alone in a crowded room Alex, you are doing a lot of things that should help you meet people, it only takes the right person to come along and that can happen at any time
Hang in there mate xxxx
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its just the outright rejection by my ex partner. I mean one minute loves you next minute doesnt care if you alive or dead or homeless or whatever. I mean what the ****ing hell is that? what is that? can anyone tell me what the **** is up with people?
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Some people are strange Alex. The world is full of all sorts of people. Some good and some bad.
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I know how you feel, Alex. Even though I have family around me I still feel isolated and let down.
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I totally get where you are coming from.
Here's a virtual hug sent through the ether to you.
Very Best Wishes, Louise
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can anyone tell me what the **** is up with people?
I wish I knew, Alex. The world can be a cruel place sometimes. I hope you find the person you are looking for. In the meantime people on here really do care - I was thinking about this the other day and I came to the conclusion it doesn't matter that people here don't meet - it's just a different type of connection and no less valid.
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yes your right and I am grateful for that
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You will always have us here Alex, you know that ^&^
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Alex - relationships are hard work. I've had my fair share of rejections and two broken relationships. After the second, I decided to give myself time to be alone. I figured I was still lonely in the relationship, why not save myself some grief and be celibate for a while. A couple of friends playfully mocked as I told them of my plans. 13 years later, I can honestly tell you it has saved me a lot of heartache. I've had my own problems, taking on someone else's, for me, is out of the question. They say love comes along when you're not looking....I bloody hope not!! It's good to be celibate, even just for a wee while.
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yeah kind of did that enforced celibacy for a number of years. it was seven years between relationships. Not sure if I really want to be alone for another 7 years again, I will be 46 then. only been in two relationships, 6 years out of of 39 years.
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Relationships are over rated.... ;)
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Hi Alex,
I have just returned here and I can see that people here are friendly :) I know people maybe faraway but they do still care I can see that, I am a good listener, You can message me anytime if you want, Many hugs to you.
Tink.xxx
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I dont think relationships are over-rated, if I thought like that I would go live the life of a hermit somewhere which I have seriously considered at times.I doubt I would last long, especially after my jaunt to Tuscany and living with just George for company most of the time. We are social beings and we need family and friends and lovers too. Sometimes all of those people can cause us pain too,they can be hard work sometimes but when they are good they are good and thats what I like to remember. True sometimes I remember all the hurt too. It only hurts because you also remember the good stuff too.
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Something in the readings today Alex "we need stormy weather to appreciate the sunshine" but it would be nice if the storms didnt last so long
Z xx
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agreed Zaf! we cant appreciate the light without the darkness. Oh and thanks Tink!
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Just hope you get the light soon Alex :).
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Me too &*(
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You are right again, we do need relationships and people around us.
I just meant that when things are good relationships can be wonderful But when they arent which mine hasnt been for years then relationships do seem over rated!
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((( $%^ Shinning light on Alex
I agree with Alex....to a point. It is good to try be alone for a time to sort out our own issues before taking on relationships. For me, my celibacy got a bit out of hand and is now part of my agoraphobia....so, I'm not exactly the best one to give advise on this
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me too Shaz, me too cos its been so effing dark recently as you know! I dont mean to be right woozy, I only speak for myself and not others. Just something my ex said not only after dumping me but actually when I first spoke to her online that 'love is over-rated'. Strange that seeing as she got into a new relationship just 3 weeks after that statement to me and a mere 4 months after dumping me!
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Some people get into relationships for the wrong reasons though. Maybe she just needs someone to be with. Not meaning that she felt this way about you.
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whats right for me isnt right for others. I can only vouch for myself and if I really wanted to be a hermit I would be out somewhere doing it, somewhere remote. I admit it appeals to me at times but no its not really what I want, I would be doing it because I have been hurt. Only very few people in this world can be true hermits. I have been remote places in Scotland and came back and here I am in a city again as its what I know
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Exactly, we are all different, and want and need different things from relationships and life.
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no doubt she did Shaz. thats if she even did.
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One of the worst experiences of my life was watching my ex - who I still loved very much - get together with someone else only 2 wks after we broke up. I found it difficult to become intimate with other people because I was still very much in love with someone who didn't love me.
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One of the worst experiences of my life was watching my ex - who I still loved very much - get together with someone else only 2 wks after we broke up. I found it difficult to become intimate with other people because I was still very much in love with someone who didn't love me.
It's always easier and quicker for the "dumper" to move on, as they have finished and closed the relationship off far earlier in their own minds...
The "dumpee" is alwayd hurt and lost and 90% of the time, it comes out the blue and is a major shock for them....
Not saying any of that will help, but, just saying it's perfectly normal...
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I dont think its perfectly normal. I think its BS that someone is saying three weeks prior to them being in this 'very serious' relationship they are telling me how much they want to be single and alone and love is over-rated. So in the space of two weeks, she went on a dating site, found someone, met them and then was 'very serious'. I have been on a dating site for 2 months now and not met a single person
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I'm convinced she found someone else that quick as she didnt want to be alone but doesnt have the feelings for him she is saying
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I think then that people are no better than dogs, in fact at least dogs are loyal
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I agree with Zaf, some people just can't be on their own and need to be with somebody, whether they love them or not :(.
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I dont think its perfectly normal. I think its BS that someone is saying three weeks prior to them being in this 'very serious' relationship they are telling me how much they want to be single and alone and love is over-rated. So in the space of two weeks, she went on a dating site, found someone, met them and then was 'very serious'. I have been on a dating site for 2 months now and not met a single person
what people say and how they feel are sometimes 2 different things...
she was just trying to let you down gently, she was obviously ready to move on..
everyone has different time frames on when they feel ready to move on... there is no rights or wrongs...
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Um mr moody I kinda understand what you're saying but Mr Sad sack also has a point.
People definitely do say one thing but feel another. I've spent nearly 50years trying to figure that one out. The person who dumps has already prepared for moving on and the slimey scum bag doesn't have the heavy baggage of rejection to contend with, so it is easy for them to start afresh
Of course not all people are like that mr moody....but the ones who are (like your friend) are usually not worth bothering about. If she can jump from one idea to the next then it's probably blessed you've had a lucky escape!!
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and this is not even a quote this is what she wrote
"thats just it alex i don't want to be with anyone ever,it all hurts to much when it goes wrong which it always seems to do,so personally i don't want to share anythign with another human being in that way again, i don't trust people,men now scare me greatly i have a fear i've never had before so better all round if i stay alone
i don't feel worthy i certainly don't feel attractive i am the things you said i was and more i deserve the pain i have in my heart your right,thats why the things that have happened to me have because i have no vaule to men other then the obvious
but then i guess we all have pain like this inside hence we are depressed people"
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you dont know the back story sadsack and that my ex went out of her way to mess my head up and achieved that! there was alot lot more to this story than has been written just on this thread!
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anyways,not intrested anymore in what people here have to say,you dont know the full story and I am insulted that you said it was perfectly normal how she behaved. not in my book,not now not ever!
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another piece of text she wrote
"you know how i know it's true because for awhile there even if it was just briefly you thought that was what i was doing again hence thats what you think i am
its ok i get why it's all men want. i just intend to never allow anyone near me again i've come to the conclusion thats best all round,in my core i know what i am and it's not good
if you hadn't of messed up alex i would have it would have gone wrong in the end it always does there are no happy endings are there "
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Wooo sorry!!!!
I do know people however... just because they say one thing, doesn't mean it’s true.
So what if she said that in her text/email whatever... it doesn't mean that is how she felt.
Always trust peoples actions, not their words... words are cheap, actions define the person.... feels like you took everything she said as gospel... and it's not always the case.
But you are right, I'm new, I don't know you or your story...and it's obvious that anyone trying to offer a different perspective into it isn't welcome...
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"i know i am good at that i know i am good at certain things but i fail in matters of love,i think i always in the back of my mind am waiting for it to go wrong
i push and test people but if i stay single that won't be an issue "
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Whoa Alex, she has hurt you badly but try not to let your hurt eat away inside you, it will only make you feel worse &*(
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seriously mate... why have you even kept those types of messages....
That can't be good for you... going over and over them, or even just keeping them...
That can't be good for you....
Don't you think it could be a good idea to get them all deleted and out your way?!?!? may help you move on?!?!
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Guys, this all got a bit heated and I've censored a few posts as the general public can read this, I'm not apportioning blame at all as in the past I know I've innocently managed to say the wrong thing at the wrong time or be scratchy.
Z xxx