Depression Forums
General => Welcome our 'NEW MEMBERS'!! => Topic started by: DeLilo-Fan on May 02, 2012, 12:25:21 AM
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Hi everyone.
Felt I`d join the forum to maybe achieve some new perspectives, hear some new opinions, and hopefully hear some uplifting stories of people who have beaten depression (if that’s possible). I’m also joining because I’m not really sure what to do. I was diagnosed with depression around 8 months ago, and received counselling to help try to alleviate it. However, while this proved very successful at first, I felt I was discharged much too early. I have not seen anyone for around 2 months and all of the negative thoughts and emotions that first led me to feel depressed in the first place seem to have returned. I still have good days, but I also have very bad days.
I felt the NHS councillor, my GP, and my immediate family and partner (I didn’t really tell any of my male friends) were very supportive at first. However, I feel they`ve become sick and tired of my constant negativity. As a result, I think I’ve actually become quite good at completely bottling all my emotions up so as too not upset/annoy them. They`ve often asked me why I can’t appreciate that I have x, y and z good thing going for me in my life. I suppose they do have a point- I have good things going for me, I just seem completely unable to appreciate them.
Sorry to go off on one on my first post, I’ve just started typing and it`s spilled out!
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Hi and welcome, I think many of us could have written that post. If you think it might help make the point depression is a long term illness and its not possible to bounce back quickly
Z x
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Hello and welcome,
I have to agree with Zaf, I certainly could have written your post myself. Many of us also bottle things up and keep quiet about our illness to friends and loved ones. If people have never suffered with depression they struggle to understand how this awful illness affects us. We can't pull ourselves together, it doesn't work like that.
You will find great support on this forum, we are a friendly bunch.
S x x
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Hi and welcome
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This is a great place for getting all your feelings out......... no-one ever judges you here
D xx
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Thanks for all the kind replies. It`s nice to talk to others who actually know what im talking about!
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You've come to IMO the best forum for people with depression on the net! Like others have said your post rings true with me too. I've had depression since I was 18 (I'm 34) and it has been a difficult journey ever since. There have been times when I've felt great and that I am over it but it always comes back, again and again.
Just sharing our individual experiences makes us realise that we are not alone, one amazing thing about the web!
B
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I completely agree with beetzart. The worst part is it just keeps coming back and people around you just don't understand why you are seeing the world in the way you do. It's good to know you are not alone and it can be coped with.
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I agree - friends who see me being a bit down say things like "but you have a lovely....." I know I do but the depression (it has a name now) gets in th way and blocks those comforting and feel-good feelings that come from having a lovely child, home, wife, living in lovely place in a nice house. I suppose you could have everything you wanted in life but if you are ill, you could still be down. "£"
If your partner is supportive and sympathetic, or even tries to be, you are very lucky.
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Having everything doesnt stop people getting depressed, look at all the very rich and famous people that suffer from depression :(
Z xx
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That's what I've been saying - you can have eberything you want and still be down.
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its very easy to think 'Ive got this and that, why am I depressed when there are others so much worse off than myself' but depression isnt a choosy illness and it will strike anyone at any time just like a lot of other illnesses :(
Z x
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Oh i agree with you all, but it's easy to know it's an illness and can strike anyone, rich or poor but it's another thing believeing it sometimes, when i suggested that my Depression comes from my dad as he suffers as well, my mum said 'but your dad actually has something to be depressed about' I know i know thanks mum, i have no reason for my unhappyness but that's just the way it is, yeah i feel guilty that doesn't help either it's a mad vicious cycle, why cant you appriciate what you have and sort yourself out, there are people much worse off, stop attention seeking and pull yourself together.
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I'm convinced some types of depression can be hereditary, my mum has suffered all her life.
Z x
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Thanks for all your replies. Lot`s of this rings true. I believe some forms of depression are hereditary- my uncle is has attempted suicide a few times and a strain of negativity does seem to run in the family. My partner comes from a very positive, supportive environment-I believe that’s what gives her such a great outlook on life. I don’t think circumstances always bring on depression. I’m a better `place` (hat to use such a corny term) in my life than when I felt at my lowest, but an improvement in my circumstances hasn’t altogether improved my mood.
As a few people have mentioned, the worst thing people can tell me is things like “Your lucky, so and so is unemployed, kids are starving in Africa etcâ€. How is that suppose to improve my mood? It just highlights why I’m depressed. We live in such an unfair, unequal world, and that genuinely upsets me. It`s the idea that, sure, your life is fairly crap, but other people are suffering even worse, so enjoy what you do have. My counter argument is, is their not a way we can all try and live a more positive and equal life? Perhaps that`s naive.
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I think the only thing we can do is to try to help others less fortunate than ourselves when we can, we cant solve the world's problems ourselves but perhaps signing petitions, giving aid and getting involved with pressure groups may make a bit of difference somewhere
Z xx
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I think they are the practical avenues to go down. I just feel disconnected from the society that I now live in- Joining this forum , and really thinking about how I feel and what I’m typing makes me think that perhaps I need to revisit my GP!
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It certainly wont do any harm to see your GP, I think when we're depressed we tend to focus on the bad things in life and not the positives, individually we can do positive things to help this world and the inhabitants but alone we will never solve all its problems
Z xx
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I also think it may be a good idea to have a chat with your gp. When we feel as we do its very difficult to think of those less fortunate. Depression is not choosy I have a lovely home, family and still depression hit. It also runs in our family with both of my siblings suffers too.
S x x
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I'm convinced that it is hereditary as well - my mother has it to a certain extent (she has many of the traits) and my grandmother certainly did in the days when it was not recognized. She left her children and husband and ran away then developed a drink problem. I believe, and I will try to find out one day when I have time and resources, that my grandmother's father killed himself. But those sort of things were not talked about then (before WW2) and it seems to have been covered up by the family. One of my cousins who shares the grandmother in question also suffers from depression. So there has to be something in it.