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Depression Related Forums => Depression Central => Topic started by: CharleysAngel' on April 18, 2012, 06:55:23 PM
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I've reached breaking point. I feel really unwell physically, I keep feeling dizzy and faint and on more than one occaision today I was sure I was going to collapse. I am exhausted, I'm getting on average three hours of sleep. I can't do it anymore, I can't see a doctor because my mum won't allow it and she will find out if I go behind her back, and even if I did they can't do anything for me. I don't know what to do anymore! :'(
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Icelolly, I really think that you should try to see a doctor, as you say, you really can't go on like this.
If your mum really won't approve of you seeing the doctor despite you telling her your symptoms it may be time for something a little more drastic. By this I mean telling someone at school that you feel really unwell and explain that you feel dizzy and like you are going to collapses. This should get you sent home with someone telling your mum that you should be taken to the doctor.
I think that given the way you are feeling it may be the case that the GP could do something, they can't just let it go on.
Buttercup xxx
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I agree with Buttercup, either that or when you start getting dizzy etc again go to A&E
Z xx
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Thanks x
I'm wondering if I might be better off in A&E, probably be better looked after there. :'(
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I think you're right. They would do everything they needed and you'd have answers. I really feel for you Icelolly, you shouldn't have to face this on your own &*( &*(
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Thanks buttercup x
No one would take me though, and if I did get someone to take me then my mum would go bananas. I also have a 10 hour art exam over the next two days. Why does eveything have to happen at the wrong time!
There is also the possibllity that they might just tell me that there is nothing wrong with me at the hospital and send me home again :'(
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You should not be feeling like this icelolly. Is there anyone else you can talk to and go with them to see your dr or take you to A&E?
S x x
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I don't understand your mum, why won't se allow you to see your GP does she not understand that by doing so she is risking your health, what is her problem with you seeing your GP?
I really think that you need to take matters into your own hands and find a way to talk to somebody, go to your school councellor or principal and explain that you are in crisis medically and that your mother will not allow you to get help, that way they have to get the crisis team or social services depending on your age envolved. I know this seems rather drastic but I highly advice you to get the help you need and not allow your mum to stand in your way as I worry for you and your health.
do you have any other family members that could help you, such as aunt or uncle, grandparents?
please don't wait to get help as this may make things much worse
smirfy ;)
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I don't think so shaz, I don't really know anyone who would be able to do that for me :(
Smirfy, its because she thinks there is nothing wrong with me, I don't have any other family members I can speak to either. I could tell head of house what's going on but I don't think there is anything she can do about it :(
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Ice Lolly,
This is awful.
You are intelligent ienought o know what is best for you. If you need to go to the doctors then go, it doesnt matter what your mum says. She cannot stop you from going. Perhaps you need to get the doctor to right your mum a letter.
Steve XX
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Icelolly, the school also has a duty of care to you that they can not ignore. Steve's right your mum cannot stop you from going to the doctors.
Buttercup xxx
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Thanks x
My mum can't stop me, but its impossible to make an appointment myself because I'm on the way to school at the time I need to phone in, it would be impossible for me to get to the appointment because I always walk home with my brother and he would tell my mum if I wasn't there.
And I have just been to the doctor, its going to look a bit funny if I go in and say I have been feeling really ill the day after I saw her and she told me that I'm just a bit worried :(
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Rather than looking funny Icelolly, I would hope that it would send a message to your doctor about the level of distress you are experiencing.
Xxx
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I hope so, I'm going to speak to head of house tomorrow and tell her exactly how unwell I am feeling and see what she thinks. She has said it the past that she can speak with my doctor if she needs to, and I think she needs to now :(
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Kept feeling really faint in my art exam, thought about telling the teacher I was feeling really ill but what with the girl who choked on the mint and the girl who broke her ankle I didn't think the school would want to call a third ambulance today :-\
It passed after about ten minutes but leaves me feeling really weak and shaky after, happened a couple of times today :(
Couldn't find head of house, she wasn't in her office over lunch and to be honest I don't know what I am supposed to say to her :(
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Somehow you do need to find a way of seeing a doctor about this IceLolly
Z xx
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I'm hoping head of house can sort it, I can't do it on my own :(
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I hope so IceLolly, you really cant go on feeling ill with no help :(
Z xx
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I know i need to :'( if I was to faint at school my head of house would have me sent straight to hospital because she knows that I am ill but that no one knows what is wrong with me so maybe its a good thing that I have to go to school even though I am feeling really unwell.
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I think you're right IceLolly, in a way it might be better if you were to become ill at school and go to hospital straight away
Z xx
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Could you write a note to your head of year and leave it in her office, asking is it possible for her to find you and so you can tell her what is going on. You really can't go on like this &*(.
S x x x
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I could do actually. I know I need to get this sorted but I just feel kind of weird going to her office and telling her my symptoms, she isn't a doctor after all.
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I think you need to IceLolly, even if you only tell her about your dizzy spells
Z xx
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Your right Zaf, I'm just feeling so tired and unwell I don't have the energy to fight my own battles :'(
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Its really not fair on you, I hope your head of year can help
Z xxx
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Thanks Zaf, I hope she can too. I will try and find her tomorrow x
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&*(
Z xx
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I know she is not a dr icelolly but you really need someone to help you.
&*(
S x x x
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I am really worried for your health Icelolly and it concerns me that you are not getting the help you need, have you managed to talk to anyone at school yet? I had a thought earlier on could you get the head of pastoral care at school involved or the school nurse and ask them to make a doctors appointment for you.
have you been to the school nurse since this all started? if you are at a boarding school they are often able to get a doctor to come into school to talk to you so that you don't have to go to them.
please don't suffer with this alone, we are all hear as you know
take care of yourself
smirfy
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Icelolly, I can only echo what others have said. You need to get some help with the way you are feeling. xxx
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Thanks shaz and smirfy and Buttercup xx
Smirfy, head of pastoral care does know about everything that's going on, he works in partnership with head of house but she always speaks to me and deals with the issues.
I don't think we actually have a school nurse, and if we do I have know idea who it is. I know this might sound a bit unbelievable but I have only ever been to the medical room once!
I'm hoping that head of house has heard back from CAMHS tomorrow and will approach me first, make it a bit easier xx
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I hope you get some help soon icelollyx so you can start to feel better. Take care. X . &*(
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Thanks Ruth x
Didn't get to speak to head of house, kind of hard to see anyone when your in an art exam all day. Went to her office at the end of day to give her a note and her office was locked and I had no paper >:(
Looks like I will have to wait until monday :(
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&*( for you. Hope the Art exam went ok. Hopefully you can see your head of year on Monday.
S x x x
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Thanks Shaz, and the art exam was fine, boring but fine x
This is going to seem a bit of an odd question but would you class this as fainting? So I feel dizzy and lightheaded and then I just feel this weird kind of not real sensation and I feel fuzzy and like I can't see properly and I have no sense of where I am , and then I sort of lose balance a bit and stumble but not really bad. Would you class that as fainting? I was explaining to my friend that that is how I feel when I think I am going to pass out and she said that she would say that it actually fainting but I'm not sure :-\
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I've always thought of fainting as actually collapsing and being unconscious for a moment or more but I know the feeling you mean and if I get the sensation I'd say "I feel faint" so not quite sure IceLolly
This might help IceLolly http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Fainting/Pages/Introduction.aspx
Z xx
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I have only ever fainted once, I went really light headed and then really hot and do not remember anything else, as I went down then.
But I suppose you can feel faint and not actually collapse.
Sorry but that's all I know :(.
S x x
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I've always considered fainting as actually collapsing. I have fainted once and had the exact same symptoms as Shaz.
I do think that your GP needs to know about this ASAP
Xxx
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Thanks everyone x
That's what I thought, that fainting is when you actually collapse and end up flat out on the floor but my friend argued this could be classed as a 'type' of fainting. Personally I'm not so sure I agree with her.
Buttercup, my GP probably isn't going to be that worried about it. She's got all that blood work which is fairly recent and my symptoms are the same as they were back in september, she will no doubt put it down to me being so tired and stressed :(
I still want to see her about it though, unfortunately nothing I can do about it now until monday but I am trying really hard to sort it x