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General => Welcome our 'NEW MEMBERS'!! => Topic started by: Moonbeam on March 15, 2012, 12:02:08 AM

Title: hi
Post by: Moonbeam on March 15, 2012, 12:02:08 AM

well, i'm new here and a bit nervous..

although theres loads of issues going on in my life - perhaps for another day discussion, i have a friend, whom i care for deeply and they have gone downhill rapidly from depression and i just need help and advice as to what to do really...

I supppose i'm just scared that i will step over the line and they will tell me to push off and leave them alone for good. We used to chat regularly and now there is nothing.... i'm not a confident person myself and full of self doubt and i'm just scared i guess that they won't come back and be friends with me anymore. That probably sounds selfish of me. Due to circumstances, i don't have a lot of friends and this one was especially important to me.

So many feelings go through my head, it feels like i'm on a rollercoaster myself, let alone my friend who is the one struggling... is this normal or am i just being very selfish?. I would hate for me to be selfish about this...

So i'm stuck - do i just stay out of the way until they feel better - but i don't know how long this will be :( or do i keep trying to say hi and let them know that i'm still around for them..... its a very fine line and, well, i don't know what to do for the best..

Title: Re: hi
Post by: solo on March 15, 2012, 12:15:22 AM

Hi Moonbeam
Welcome to the forum. Everyone here is so friendly and welcoming.
I haven't got any answers for you but I would like to say that your friend is so lucky to have you. Hold on in there  :)
Wishing you and your friend all the best x

Title: Re: hi
Post by: Zaf on March 15, 2012, 06:39:23 AM

Hi moonbeam

You're right that irs a very fine line, just let your friend you're there for her without being too pushy, when we get depressed we often dont feel like communicating or doing much at all unfortunately :(

As  solo says, your friend is really lucky to have you and I hope all ges well

Z xx

Title: Re: hi
Post by: Sweetpea on March 15, 2012, 10:26:57 AM

Hello moonbeam, I agree with what others have said.  Just let your friend knw you are there when needed.

S x

Title: Re: hi
Post by: Ezel on March 15, 2012, 10:57:49 AM

 .>, Moonbeam,

You are doing what you can to be a good friend.  Just being there says a lot about you.

Title: Re: hi
Post by: KateG on March 15, 2012, 05:37:44 PM

Welcome to the forum Moonbeam

I agree with the others, letting your friend know that you're there when he/she wants to talk, but not pressuring them into talking is the best thing you can do

Title: Re: hi
Post by: Moonbeam on March 15, 2012, 11:41:38 PM

thanks for the welcome. :)

it sure it tough being on the outside of things though, i just want to be able to knock down the wall, but i know that the wall can't be knocked down that easily.....