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Depression Related Forums => Depression Central => Topic started by: Zaf on January 06, 2012, 02:44:08 PM
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I'm sure many of us suffer from them but how many times do our minds go off thinking about wild scenarios or worries about something never happens?
I'd been concerned and at times really down and miserable because I hadnt heard from Maxie's new owners for some considerable time and managed to persuade myself something terrible had happened to her or her owners, I didnt like to email them in case they thought I was hassling them. All sorts of 'what ifs' whent through my mind for a couple of weeks at least, thankfully lol made me see sense and I emailed them to find they had been busy but Maxie was working beautifully for them with their other horse and is even booked to do a wedding in April :)
So much for my 'what ifs' ::)
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I think its so easy when we have depression to let our minds wander off and create all sorts of devastating scenarios - which, when looked at logically, would probably never happen. I know if I have to go somewhere or do something I feel uncomfortable with I spend days before obsessing over it and thinking in minute detail of all the bad things that 'could' happen - they hardly ever do. I guess its the nature of the beast :-\ xx
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It is a beast indeed.
I am quite a big catastrophizer. I do this a lot and is a major contributing factor to my social anxiety. I'm glad you've brought it up because it's nice not to feel alone with this. I bet you'll have quite a large response to this.
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I'm convinced its a big contributer to some of my episodes of depression over the years then ahving depression fuels the fire so it becomes a vicious circle :(
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what "if's" are a fear of the known -unknown if you get my meaning?, we know the basics but tend to fill in the bit's we don't know about with gloom and doom, it's like being read a story and waiting for the other chapter in a months time, we tend to fill in with all sorts but usually resorting to a sad ending. optimistic outlooks are categorically off the menu in the land of depression.
glad you feel better
LR
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You may well be right with that
Thanks :) xx
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You see thats where I think the lines of Depression/Anxiety blur. Sometimes I have great trouble working out what is Depression and what is Anxiety. Im sure a lot of it is Anxiety based, and it sounds like what youve said about overthinking things is Anxiety too. Im no doctor (by any stretch of the imagination)but the two are so intrinsically linked that they are almost one.
Im the same, and like I mentioned on 'my trip down the rabbit hole', my anxiety relates to IBS and the fear of needing a loo in public or if im out with people I dont feel "safe" with I worry in case ill need the loo and embarras myself. Its a totally irrational fear, down right bloody daft in fact. But I feel and get anxious about it EVERY DAY. But also catastrophising and doom mongering is Depression but is also Anxiety. Funny old state of affairs...
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I have IBS and I know that feeling well, if it strikes badly not only do I need a loo urgently but often darent leave it for up to a couple of hours. I take pysillium before I go out now which works wonders for me (with lots of water, thats essential), but although a qualified herbalist gave me the tip I think its fairly universally used for dirrohea of all types
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I also suffer with IBS, think it must go hand in hand with stress. I take Buscopan for the cramps. They really do ease it for me.
Sharon x
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If i ever have to go somewhere when i know ill feel anxious and then need the loo i just take a couple of Loperamide (Immodium), works wonders. The only problem is i then cant go for 4 days!! lol
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that stuff never touched my dirrohea, I might as well have been taking smarties :(
I guess its another case of one thing works OK for some people and not for others
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Not that this is advisable as a regular thing, but co-codamol can bung you up a bit. If you have a headache too its the perfect excuse to take some and it works well for me. If it works on MY bowels then it should work well for others :) The effects dont last so long as Immodium.
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My eldest son takes codeine on prescription to help bung him up. He has a long medical history of problems from when he was born. He has a colostomy for 9 months which was done a day after he was born. God bless Great Ormond Street childrens hospital is all I can say, hes now under UCL London hospital now hes an adult. He then had a reversal and has problems so he takes codeine and immodium, sounds crazy but he knows now when he needs either drugs.
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Bless him, he sounds like hes had a tough break there Shaz. It must have been tough for you too, seeing him go through all that and at such a young age too.
I think when you have had meds for a long period of time, you become somewhat of an expert on what you need and when. He probably has a better insight to what he needs and when in this respect than any doctor would.
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You are so right Glen. It was pretty scarey at the time, lived in Germany and had to be aero-med'd back to the uk and then by ambulance from the private airport to GOS. Its a long story but he just did not develop properly in the womb. He had no opening at all for his back passage, so obviously it was urgent to get him to a hospital to deal with it. So he had an emergency op that gave him his colostomy. Have to say we had no problems with it. It was when it was reversed that the real problems started. He had very little control as he had very minimal muscles to control his bowel. He then had several years of urine infections, which they eventually found out was due to a small and tilted bladder, so he had a bladder enlargement where they used part of his bowel to make it larger and he also now has a metrophanof stoma which he catheterises through. Its amazing what these surgeons can do, the stoma is actually his appendix which they stitched to his bladder and to a tiny opening in his side. So he can empty himself properly, he can pee normally too, which apparantly is unusual but he is lucky that he just has to catheterise about 4 times a day. He has had it pretty rough with one thing or another but hes a great lad (27 now) and he is so caring and understanding of anyone with problems. He has to attend UCL London a couple of times a year for tests etc and will have to do this for the rest of his life.
Sharon
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He sounds like a brave young man - to have had so much to deal with and ongoing issues as well. I'll bet it has had a huge bearing on both your lives, but I would wager he has emerged a stronger man having to deal with so much. These kinds of issues either break you or make you stronger.
Huge respect to you both for getting through it.
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I am in awe of your story there Shaz. Youe son has been so brave all his life and you must have been terrified tghrough all of this. Well done. Very inspirational.
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Bless you both. Yes it has made him stronger. He had rough times at school etc. Not an easy thing to talk about with your friends. Hated it for him. To add to his problems both his vas derence (sperm tubes) were attached to his bowel, so that had to be operated on too. Now he is sterile, which I was quite open with him about from an age where he could understand. He has had in excess of 22 operations, lost count after a while, the last major one was for his metrophanof when he was 11. But I have to say being somewhere like GOSH it makes you count your blessings, I saw so many children with much worse problems than my son. But I have to say that when I found out about his problems I thought my life had ended. It was very frightening. I was only 19 when I had him and away from my family. But I am one that needs to know all I can about any condition then I can understand it. I also helped other mums with babies that arrived at GOSH that had similar conditions. I even got to donate breast milk to help prem babies, so that helped me think I gave something back.
He also has a tattoo on his inner wrist with the GOSH baby face with the inscription 'masters in their field' only recently had it done, needless to say I just erupted into tears when I saw it. He knows that they saved his life and it was something he felt he needed to do.
Sharon x
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Well that was a lovely thing to do. What a lovely lovely young man &*( to both of you.
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aaahhh thanx so much LOL
s
Sharon x
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He certainly has stuggled hasnt he? 22 operations :o
You both truly are an inspiration to others.
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I'll definitely second that