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Depression Related Forums => Depression Central => Topic started by: Raindrops on December 14, 2011, 07:07:44 PM
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i read every word, i read every post here.
&*( to you my dear, your stubborn like me an i admire that, your also very strong and you can get though this, he seems possessive and i think you've done the right thing. he is very cruel for what he did to you with the threat of suicide, that just evil, im angry at him too now. your better of without him.
not really to sure what else to say really other than &*( again.
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He sounds incredibly possesive and manipulative. You are best off out of it - you did the right thing in going to the councillor each time he threatened suicide - like Cornish, I'm pretty peeved that its something he see's as a way to get your attention.
Please look after yourself through this - he needs help, but he's not your responsibility. xx
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now that his parents know you dont really have any responsibility, your free from his evil claws. hopefully permanently if thats what you want.
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I agree with cornish and munchroom, take care of yourself xx
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From a slightly different perspective, I tried to look after a friend who tried to kill herself. She was only 22. She wasnt talking to her parents and had few 'destructive' friends, so i decided to keep an eye on her myself.
The short version is that it was a big mistake (read my journal for more info) I cant stress enough how much the replies above are right. Please focus on yourself and let the guys parents take this on. I cant say for sure, but he sounds very controlling and 'focussed' on you in an unhealthy manor and you dont need this in your life. If he loved you that much he would not have told the councillor what he did, or threaten to kill himself. To do one of these things is bad enough, but both?
On the subject of getting yourself help, please dont put the idea out of your mind. I cant tell you how helpful it can be to talk to someone about the stresses of life. I know your hand was forced and this in turn has likely led to a bad experience of this, but the person you are seeing is at school (is that right?) This has meant that everyone knows and its 'too close' to a life you are trying to struggle through, making going through the daily grind even tougher at school. Could I suggest maybe seeing a councillor outside of school? That way its not in everyone elses view - nobody has to know ;) Im sure the school based councillor would back away if they knew you were seeing a professional elsewhere? All you need to do is see your GP and get referred.
I hope some of this is helpful to you. Keep fighting on, and try to forget the ex. Remember the good times and see them for what they are: the past. He may have loved you once, but he clearly doesnt love you now.
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The only person that can decide you need to talk is you. If you are not ready, then fair its the right decision for you right now. Please be careful of keeping things to yourself though. Im sure plenty of people on here, myself included, can testify to the damaging power of bottling things up.
You sound very articulate with your feelings and I hope that things improve for you.
If you do need to talk to someone other than a councillor then we are always here to listen.
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Glad we could help a bit xx
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The part about getting myself help, yes the councillor is in school. She has offered me a councillor outside of school, in fact I could get anything I asked for if I wanted it and i'm not ungrateful but I don't want to be helped, I'm not entirely sure why but I really don't want it
But as for me, i'd rather just stay... me
i felt the same and well i still do but when i was having treatment i didn't want i have to admit it did help, its worth a try, even though i still keep thinking i dont want help, i just want to be left alone.
but what ever you choose to do we will support you fully
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As cornish said :)
Im glad you are feeling better about things. :)
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