Hi, this might be a long post....
I'm Dave, aged 20. I've lurked for a while and some of the feelings that I've read really mirror what I've been feeling. I think I've been depressed on and off since the age of 16. I've always found things more difficult - when I first started school, I had speech therapy, learning difficulties and was diagnosed with dyspraxia. As I've grown up, I've overcome a lot of stuff. I managed to obtain GCSEs, A levels and I'm currently working on a degree so I've exceeded everyone's expectations. I wasn't expected to manage to achieve any GCSEs! But my dyspraxia has stayed with me and sometimes I really struggle with things, and it gets me down. I don't know what's caused me to feel down, but I think being dyspraxic may have a lot to do with it. I do have my happy times... but I really don't think much of myself. Since being at uni, I've had jobs and I've really struggled with keeping a job for a long period of time. I'm either too slow, don't follow instructions correctly when they are first said to me and I end up feeling anxious and nervous about every job I do. I've lied to get out of going into work in the past and I've snapped a lot at my co workers which has caused me to lose jobs. I sometimes feel like I'm not good enough to succeed and I compare myself a lot to others, and I just can't imagine myself being successful in the future. Learning to drive has also been a big issue for me. I attempted it, but those feelings of failure just came back to me when I couldn't get the hang of it and I lost my confidence. I'm also gay and whilst I don't think this is a big issue, sometimes it can get me down especially when I remind myself I won't be going down a traditional path in life. I sometimes worry that I'll be alone forever.
So I think these issues have built over time... when I feel down, I feel so exhausted that I don't feel like I can do anything. I felt like this in the summer of 2009. When I got to uni, things started to improve as I met new people and was starting a new course but these feelings are slowly creeping back over me. I used to love reading and writing but I've lost interest in all my hobbies. I've lost my passion for writing - I was once told I was talented at writing, but this talent seems to have completely disappeared. I can't write anymore. It's as if the hobby never existed. I can't concentrate on reading and my results at uni for this year have been affected as a result. I don't really care about anything anymore. Everything washes over me or goes straight over my head and I'm just left with a 'meh' feeling. The only things I do are watch DVDs when I can be bothered to concentrate, come online and drink down the pub. I could be doing something to improve myself, like get a new hobby but I don't have the motivation. Some days, I skip meal times and hardly eat, and spend half the day in bed. My sleep pattern is bad too. I can never get comfy and I'm tossing and turning all night. At my lowest, I've self harmed twice using a knife and fork from a drawer... but I felt this wasn't good enough. Why wasn't I using a sharp blade and aiming for the arteries? It's as if it didn't count as self harm as it wasn't good enough to be self harm! I think about death and I've had thoughts that I'm too ashamed to admit on here. At this current moment in time, I'm off from university for the summer and I'm at home. I try and disguise what I'm feeling from my family, but I feel so bad that I haven't got a job and I keep thinking my family think I'm a waster, especially as I have money trouble at the moment and I've asked to borrow money to help pay the rent on my new house.
I've browsed this forum and I kind of half believe I don't belong here. Everyone has a diagnosis on here from their doctor, but I've never had the guts to go. Believe me, there's been so many times when I've been so close to booking an appointment and telling the doctor everything but I just couldn't. I've been to the doctor about other things to (lumps and bumps) and I've been so close to just saying 'there's another thing, I've been feeling down lately' and telling them everything that's been going on in my mind.. but I can't. That's why I've joined this forum. Finally, there's people here who I can talk too. I feel like I can't talk to my family and friends.