Hi,
I've been a member of this forum for some time, but have never before had the nerve to post anything. Why would anyone want to speak to me?
I have physical health problems alongside depression and complex PTSD. At the moment, I'm going through some what of a crisis and I badly need someone to talk to, someone who understands and who doesn't presume that the way I'm feeling is going to change overnight.
It's been a really bad year, nothing has gone right and I'm left having to fight everything, fight all the time, just to get the benefits I'm entitled to, I'm left fighting to keep my house, fighting to find the money to feed myself, everything is a fight.
I'm so tired of fighting though. I don't want to have to fight anymore. Just for once this year, I want something to go RIGHT; but no it's just more and more things going wrong. I can't take anymore.
I had to make the decision earlier in the year that I was unable to work. It was not a decision that I made lightly and fought against making for as long as I could. I'm still relatively young. I should be able to work. I've worked all my life and I hate the fact that due to my disabilities working is no longer an option for me. Please believe me when I say if I could work, then I would work. I was made redundant from my last job and though it sounds strange to say, I was glad to be made redundant.
I was working part time, as I had only recently returned after a period of long term sick (12 months) due to depression and "back pain"
I was injured whilst serving inthe Royal Navy, and it has led to a number of health problems whic leave me unable to walk without the use of crutches, unable to sit or stand for long periods, and chronic fatigue.
The depression was diagnosed offiially in 2000 - just after my discharge from the Navy. However, it was something that had been there for a number of years. I'd just never gone to the doctor about the way I was feeling.
11 years on, and at the moment, I'm as low as I've ever been. I've started self harming again. Just to get a release from the tension, the self loathing, the feelings of utter worthlessness. I take a number of tablets anyway because of my physical health problems. Every night though, I'm taking my normal medication but every night I'm adding in 4 or 5, or more extra tabets in the hope that just maybe I won't wake up. That it will put an end to this. It will put an end to the misery, the pain. The sad thing is, I'm not even sure that people would really care if I was successful I don't appear to be important to anyone. My mum and dad are still around. My mum lives over 1000 miles away though and has her own life. My dad lives close to me but again he has his own life. Yes, I know they both love me and they both care. I'm just not sure that I'm really that important in their lives. I'm not important in anyones life. Least of all my own.
All I want from life is to be important to someone - to be an imprtant part of someones life. To have someone who comes home to me at the end of every day, someone who considers me to be important. All I want is for someone to love me. (By which I man other than parents) However., I see myself in the mirror and I am repulsed by what I see.I find myself so utterly repulsive it literally makes me feel physically sick. I can't find anything in me to like, let alone anything in me to love. I'm hardly fun to be around I don't have a sparkling personality. I don't have charisma, I don't have anything. I'm just a fat, repulsive, miserable excuse for human being. Why woud anyone love me? How could anyone love me? What is there to love?
I had one friend that I trusted utterly. I trused with my heart and my soul. She was the one person I thought would always be there for me, the one person I thought understood a little because she too suffers from depression and has physical health problems. However on my last visit to her (She lives miles away from me) it was a visit we were both looking forward to, to get to spend time together. My chronic fatigue kicked in though, and all I could do was sleep. Not because I wanted to be rude or anti social, or that I wasn't enjoying myself but because I literally couln't help it. I was reaching the stage where I was so tired my eyes wouldn't fous. I wasn't seeing double, I was seeing triple. So, she hasn't spoken to me for 4 months because she was annoyed that all /I did was sleep. I've tried to explain, to apologise but it makes no difference. I can't even keep the one person I trusted so totally.
I'm now under my local mental health crisis team. I've got psychiatric nurse coming out to me every other day. They ask me what I want- if they could wae a magic wand and make everything better what would I want things to be like. For a start, I want to like myself a little bit more. I want to be able to look into a mirror and not be repulsed by the person I see there. I want to believe that there is something in me that is worthy of someones love.
I want to be able to enjoy things again. At the moment, even the things that I've always previously enjoyed aren't interesting to me. I want to be able to feel happy again. I can't remember the last time I truly felt happy. How pathetic am I?
I'm sorry, I've probably bored everyone rigid by now. I guess this is just a desperate hope that there might be someone out there who understands at least a little about how Im feeling. That there might be someone out there who is willing to talk to me and listen to me. Someone who can offer support; but someone I can support too. Someone who can (virtually) relieve the uter isolation and lonlieness I feel.