so my journey through depression started with a suicide attempt because I just didn't want to feel the emotional pain I did anymore... this was brought onn by a broken home growing up, struggling through life since my independence at 15, failed relationships with women, a wreckless lifestyle in my teens, a feeling of worthlessness brought on by my fathers impossibly high standards given my circumstances amongst many other things....
I feel there are reasons we "end up" the way we do and through my studies I have been able to identify where my problems came from, as you read this you may be thinking this guy is just trying to place blame, which was true when I first found some things out but after time you can turn what you saw as blame as maybe trying to understand why you were mistreated or are afraid of arguments, why you always end up with a certain type of person, why you are drawn to certain groups or why you use drink or drugs as a way of coping. its all been incredibly interesting and I am so self aware of my problems now which has helped immensely. i sabotage relationships when they are going well, reading into why i do this, it boils down to being abandoned as a child when mum left the family home, the fears i have these days of being abandoned by the person i love means i will push them away before they have a chance to abandon me... hyporcritical huh... i know this but still do it, i had a relationship end early this year and i tried so hard to make it work and not to push her away, i was doing amazingly well believe it or not, only to be abandoned by her because things got hard for her, i worked away and we only saw eachother on weekends. the way she ended it was completely out of the blue and so unexpected it rocked me to say the least.
just a lil egsample of how my past effects my present!
so my treatments since diagnosis. have been a mixture of of AD's and counselling which have and haven't helped.
after the suicide attempt i was almost sectioned but i avoided that as i was too scared to be in a mental unit at the time and was reffered to mind, my first ever experience with a counsellor and it helped immensely i have to say. i was there for 6 months and then got a job and tried "life" again....
tried to get back into mind but couldn't get seen quick enough so i joined oasis open door, a place for people with drug and alchohol services that also offered counselling, they were good too and i got to a point where i felt ok again and after trying "life" again a period went past and i fell again....
these circles have continued and im back at the point now where i have just started taking AD's again (fluoxetine 20mg) and am waiting for a counseller from nhs.
I cant say im too optimistic about the nhs counselling though i had CBT with them before and the dr said she couldn't see me anymore and i should read cbt for dummies. nice one doc, i did get it and there was nothing in it i didn't know. .... a dummie i am not!
i have been part of a group with CMHT ...... it lasted about 2 months .... had the kind of shrink who just sat waiting for people to speak. he pulled me up after a session to tell me to stop challenging the other people in the group with my questions and i told him if he wont do his job ill do it for him, go get a job in security if you wanna sit on your ass and do nothing. were here for a reason and your not helping i told him...
so i have no real faith in our NHS, charities are ok but the problem there is they are stop gaps for shrinks, places they goto to get experience and they move on after a period. you could be in your second session then be put back on the waiting list because a therapist has moved on ... happened to me a few times.
we are all in control of our own destiny and i feel and think that its us who do all the work... we all have ups and downs and its recognising when we are down and bringing ourselves back which seems the hardest.... but i found something that helps.... understanding our thought processes helps a lot, understanding why the state of mind your in is making you feel a certain way is paramount in turning that around!
****An introduction into transactional analysis (TA TODAY)
by ian stewart & vann joines
helped me understand and recognise my thought processes and i hope it does with you too.
ive tried paying for my own therapy too but i lost my job due to my depression and couldn't continue it .....
lol i have no idea how this comes across i was just blabbing to my new friend.... the computer screen lol
hope you all have a little laugh with how i put some things. i didn't swear anywhere as much as i normal do :p
my mood today is - depressed - anxious (jobcentre appointment) lethargic ( i just do things without thinking the past few months) im happy i can rant on here though - - hope to meet and get on with a few people on here :)