That woman I can deal with as she soon shuts up as so many people get annoyed. There have been occasions though when I have had to do something. Two years running I went through a few months of cyber bullying from someone who claimed to be British or Irish who had surrendered a child, got married and adopted her step daughter, had spoken to her daughter and they were quite happy to not have contact, her adopted died then she was pregnant in 2012 which was the second year of cyber bullying me. She also claimed to be a court clerk and insisted there was no such thing as coerced / forced adoption because a mother 'had to sign the Consent to Relinquish form in Court.' Not all mothers do sign it in court and years ago it was more likely that the mother of the mother surrendering her baby or social worker to sign the form. I have personally got to know mothers who not only know they didn't sign the form but they have also proven it. Anyway this particular woman continually called me a liar, told me I felt guilty for choosing adoption and blamed other people for my mistakes, and, used one of my blogs and an interview (on youtube in two parts) my husband and I did on This Morning to out me as a liar all because the word coerced wasn't used in the interview. People who know me backed me up and pointed out that the interview was about reunion not coerced adoption. Both years running I and other people reported all the questions and answers she posted that she believed outed me as a liar. The worst ones were removed. In both years I eventually emailed the Yahoo team and told them that if they didn't do anything I would, quoted three British laws on cyber bulling and told them I had copies of all the questions and answers where she had attacked me. I also pointed out that if she didn't stop I would involve the police and that did the trick.
The other person I had problems with was last year with someone who tried joining here. I sent him asking for information he hadn't supplied and in return I got several abusive emails which included threats. He joined up under another username with false information and another member of the admin team approved him without realizing it was the same person. He then posted several abusive posts with threats towards me mainly but also to other members in general. We did get the police involved during this time who were able to find him then asked me what course of action I wanted taken. As I believed he was severely depressed all I wanted for him was professional help so they were able to do this so a positive end to it.
I completely understand how you feel over trying to live a normal life, without beating yourself up / not being able to find the strength to move on. Emotionally I was in limbo for 23 years and I still have my bad times. It doesn't help when you know you can't change the past and can only hope is that one day your sons will understand why you had to leave them.