Hi again, things still the same, we had a couple of days this week when I thought he seemed a little better - he was laughing at 'have i got news for you'! He was talking (albeit about just general things, but its a start) now we're back where we were last week, hardly speaking (unless spoken to) and doing nothing. He always feels better when he starts to exercise, a couple of years ago, he lost a lot of weight through exercise and diet, he has great willpower when he wants to. Anyhow, he won't exercise, the doctors say 'even if its just a little walk or jog, try to do it every day', yes, he knows its good for him but is so depressed he just can't! I read about some people who say ' I just said to myself, this is something I've got to do' - Oh I get so angry with people, I dare say that providing you are a positive person to begin with, this is slightly easier, my hubby is very negative, something he freely admits and cannot tell himself to do something. Because of his moods although I try to encourage him in very subtle ways, I have to be very careful what and how I say something, its like walking on eggshells.
I don't seem to have a life anymore. I've been reading an article which I first read years ago, where someone writes 'the person caring for the person with depression likens it to being a single parent' well, I'm not sure about that, although I'm sure being a single person is one of the toughest things to do, at least you only have yourself and kids to worry about. I (and many others) are running around like headless chickens keeping the peace, making excuses for not going to family gatherings together (oh, he's not feeling too well, something he ate) making sure the kids behave, and sitting up worrying all night when the one you love goes out for a walk and you wonder if he's coming back.Not sure how long this is going to go on for this time round, will be back soon no doubt, in the meantime, thankyou for all your kind words.