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Michael Frankum

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #90 on: September 19, 2012, 05:11:13 PM »
Once again, thank you all so much for your kind thoughts.

At the moment, I'm still being a bit of a drama queen about it. I open the fridge and turn round, and nobody is watching me. And so I start crying. He's better off, so who am I crying for? Me as usual. I know I've got to get on with things, but it seems so unimportant. He was the reason i got up in the morning. Fresh food and water, and later on, the tablets. I know that it's nothing compared to what others are suffering, but it's very real to me, and I haven't got anything else.  The few people I still know are sympathetic, but what can they actually do, if I'm not prepared to do anything myself? Not even prepared to go out of the house. Not even prepared to open the door or the curtains.

Anyway, It's time to close the Wedgie forum. Maybe I could start a Michael topic, but then it's ALL about me really, isn't it.

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #91 on: September 19, 2012, 05:19:40 PM »
Don't be too hard on yourself, Michael.
When we mourn the passing of anyone - be it a human friend or an animal friend - the question and answer is the same. If a human friend passes away, they too are in a better place.
We mourn because of the loss. You are allowed to mourn Wedgie. Please, don't be too hard on yourself.

Sending you (((hugs)))


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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #92 on: September 19, 2012, 05:30:09 PM »
Dont forget we're here to support you if you need us Michael

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #93 on: September 19, 2012, 05:31:20 PM »
You are not being a drama queen Michael. You are mourning your beloved friend. This is quite normal. I am always devastated when we have lost one of ours. Its only right that you need to talk about him. We all grew to love him and his antics. Have you thought of re-homing another cat needing a home. I know it could never replace Wedgie but there of many cats needing a loving home that I know you would give him/her. I know my boys and girls (cats and dogs) are a great comfort to me when I have my down days. They do not judge and are always there for cuddles. Luv. S x x x x 

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« Reply #94 on: September 19, 2012, 06:19:39 PM »
Michael, you need to grieve and if it helps coming here to talk about Wedgie then please do as you're not a drama queen.  When my cat Charlie died Dec 2008) it broke my heart and took me ages before I stopped crying myself to sleep.  As my much as I joke that Tasha being a Jekyll and Hyde character she has started doing things Charlie used to do such as coming to us if we click our fingers, going to sleep on us, sleeping on my pillow and sleeping on back of our chairs and settee.  Sometimes I wake up and her her purring thinking it's Charlie.  It actually helps as she seems to have gradually taken on the things Charlie used to do to cheer me up.  When our dog Bouncer died 3 months later it felt like a double blow as he had seen Charlie born and she was his cat.  It's the little things we miss about him such as nudging our hands when we felt low.  Bouncer was Rick's dog but I had to feed him and hold him at the vets.  We had a very good vet who knew that Bouncer would only be calm if I held him.  It was funny over food though as Rick would occasionally stay over with his mum to sort out problems or when she was quite ill.  when he put food down Rick would have to ring me to talk to Bouncer otherwise he wouldn't eat.  His mum used to laugh and say if she hadn't seen it with her own eyes she would have thought we were joking.     

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #95 on: September 19, 2012, 06:56:09 PM »

You are not being a drama queen, when I lost my furry boy last year the grief was unbearable, he was my baby for 10 years and I will never forget him. Still shed a tear when I see his picture.

It may seem impossible to think of right now, but 6 months later we got our girls from a rescue shelter and they started to heal our hearts. We just had too much love left to not give it to some more abandoned cats.

I would like to think my that chubby tabby grumpy boy has welcomed Wedgie into cat heaven and they are chatting about how fun it is to bite fingers, how lucky they were to own such sappy subservient humans, and are chasing squirrels and flirting with the pretty girl cats...

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #96 on: September 19, 2012, 07:48:39 PM »
Oh Michael, I'm so sorry  %^%

My Molly cat is being put down tomorrow  :( she is 17, very ill and senile too

And although i know it's the best thing for her, I am crying as I type this. I know I will see her out of the corner of my eye for a long time to come

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #97 on: September 19, 2012, 08:57:32 PM »
 *(). Dear Kate, bless you. Please give Molly a hug from me. Perhaps Wedgie will see her in Cat heaven. Thank you for everything. Best wishes, always. Michael.  %^%

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« Reply #98 on: September 19, 2012, 09:01:45 PM »
Michael

Your sorrow is far worse than anything I feel right now.  You must not think of being anything less than anyone else.  It's so very important for you to grieve right now.

Your page SHOULD be all about you (and, I wasn't shouting there!!).  In my thoughts, Michael.

Blessings, Cat

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Tribute to Wedgie
« Reply #99 on: September 21, 2012, 04:45:54 AM »
I warned you that I was long-winded about things! Thank you all.

Last words to a dumb friend - Thomas Hardy 1904

Pet was never mourned as you,
Purrer of the spotless hue,
Plumy tail, and wistful gaze
While you humoured our queer ways,
Or outshrilled your morning call
Up the stairs and through the hall -
Foot suspended in its fall -
While, expectant, you would stand
Arched, to meet the stroking hand;
Till your way you chose to wend
Yonder, to your tragic end.

Never another pet for me!
Let your place all vacant be;
Better blankness day by day
Than companion torn away.
Better bid his memory fade,
Better blot each mark he made,
Selfishly escape distress
By contrived forgetfulness,
Than preserve his prints to make
Every morn and eve an ache.

From the chair whereon he sat
Sweep his fur, nor wince thereat;
Rake his little pathways out
Mid the bushes roundabout;
Smooth away his talons' mark
From the claw-worn pine-tree bark,
Where he climbed as dusk embrowned,
Waiting us who loitered round.

Strange it is this speechless thing,
Subject to our mastering,
Subject for his life and food
To our gift, and time, and mood;
Timid pensioner of us Powers,
His existence ruled by ours,
Should by crossing at a breath
Into safe and shielded death,
By the merely taking hence
Of his insignificance -
Loom as largened to the sense,
Shape as part, above man's will,
Of the Imperturbable.

As a prisoner, flight debarred,
Exercising in a yard,
Still retain I, troubled, shaken,
Mean estate, by him forsaken;
And this home, which scarcely took
Impress from his little look,
By his faring to the Dim
Grows all eloquent of him.

Housemate, I can think you still
Bounding to the window-sill,
Over which I vaguely see
Your small mound beneath the tree,
Showing in the autumn shade
That you moulder where you played.



GOODBYE WEDGIE -_)  :'( Michael

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #100 on: September 21, 2012, 07:47:25 AM »
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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #101 on: September 21, 2012, 08:06:42 AM »
((((( huge big hugs ))))) Michael. That was lovely to read this morning. S x x x x

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Re: Wedgie
« Reply #102 on: September 21, 2012, 10:24:11 AM »
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Re: Wedgie
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