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[Culchie]

Hi there ,I have just joined this forum and want to introduce myself .Will give you a rough History of myself .
Was born a few years ago ,I learnt after the the event that I had some sort of illness and had to go to speech therapists till the age of about 7 .I had a reading differculty as well . My reading improved so much that I always had a book of some sort in my grasp (My choice of Subjects)  My Mother was extremely ill when I was young and was in and out of Hospital until she finally died when I was about 11 . Life went on .I found certain Subjects at school were totally useless to me therefore I blanked them and only excelled in subjects that I liked or was interested in them . I came from a middle class family but I was the Rebel .Working in an office didnt appeal to me so ended up as the sort of Blacksheep of the family .
 It has only come to light over the last few years that I had  ADHD .Thinking back on it My Father probably had it as well but as he was brought up before the War. It was a case of get on with it as there are other things more important ( It  was that sort Mentality then ). It was also instilled in me somewhat. The clues are all there I am very gregarious but like my solitude self imposed either Fishing , wildlife or out in the country. My sisters Son was diagnosed with ADHD and has been on retalin for ages ,He is now in his 20s and is still under the cloud . I learnt I suppose to deal with it by myself without even knowing
   Moving on a few years  ,Happily married ,fed up with the rat race in London and all that it entails, kids grown up so we headed to Ireland to settle down to enjoy life (wide open spaces ,fishing etc). Bought a cottage that needed a lot of work doing to it but no problem for me . Suddenly my Wife's life was in danger (yet again ) I lost my job (recession hit hard over here ) And it all got to much ,I didnt have the funds to finish the cottage. My wife Recovered but is still very Fragile (she had suitcases full of baggage from her childhood as well ) .To cut a long story short I had an epic meltdown 5 to 6 years ago .Got over that but have been left with huge anxiety issues and depression . They are impeded me big time and have had enough .The doctors over here are sort of hit and miss .
 It has got to a stage where I wanted to hear and to talk to like minded people who are on the journey so I can get myself out of this
     Sorry for the long windedness but thought it might be relevant .There is probably a whole lot more and bits will appear over time .
I hope I havnt bored you to tears and look forward to chatting with you all

[stewart]

Hi Culchie, welcome to the forums.
you will not be judged here, and many will offer advice and assistance where they can.

growing up in London it is understandable you like to get to the open quiet spaces, the rat race of a city does not suit everyone.

as for the docs, sometimes you have to be a bit more to the point with them, asking fro referals to specialists and the like,
even medication.... citalopram and mirtazapine are often the starting points, (other members could point out some other meds) and please dont give up on the meds after a few days or a week, some can take a few weeks to start working, and difrent meds dont work the same for everyone.

it sounds like you are doing well standing by your wife and helping where you can in that regard, as for the ADHD, im not sure if it is genetic, someone here may know.

[Sweetpea]

Hi and welcome. You certainly did not bore me to tears with your post. You have certainly had a tough life.

I look forward to reading more of your posts. We are a friendly bunch and it helps to share with others who understand.

X x

[Pip]

 :welcome: 

This is a good place to be able to share.

[Culchie]

Thanks for the welcome 
 I have been dealing with it for what seems an age .Finding this forum has sort of kicked me into the next gear so to speak and am determined to try to find out the whys, the whens etc  . I have started the process hopefully today as not only I have found some like minded people so I dont feel so alone  alone but also found out today after a good '"ol Troll " of my mate Google that ADHD is not just a youth thing but can effect adults as well .I am thinking (very Dangerous ) leading a stressful and full on life has kind of kept it occupied but now with time on my hands it has reared its ugly head again (guessing here ) or clutching at straws .It might give me something else to think about rather than just feeling sorry for myself .
 I caught a glimpse of Simon Weston      (   http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_Weston)        today on the tele It sort of made my problems insignificant (in a good way) .I just remembered  that a saying a friend of mine used to say a few years ago . "When you are down on the floor then there is only one direction you can go and thats up,  because thats the only way left to you

[PaulaJo]

Culchie that is very true - sometimes the only way is up.

Coming to this forum is a positive step, I've found, as it connects you with many like-minded people and it certainly helped me feel less isolated.
And be as long-winded as you like 

I've found the journals very useful to record my journey and to just have a space to get things out into the open for my own sake.