Hi Yosra.
Firstly, I have to thank you and Ezel for replying. I re-read my post later and thought it may have sounded like I was whining because I
wasn't a celebrity!!! &*( This, of course, wasn't the case at all; I just meant that that seeing/hearing of them reminds me how much
less than "normal" I rate myself.
Anyway, what I wanted to say Yosra was that this is what I don't get; my parents have been the complete opposite of how yours sound (which you have my deepest sympathies for; I've always maintained that the single biggest factor that will screw *anyone* up the most are their parents. I wish there was some sort of vetting process to weed out parents like yours and prevent them from having offspring who will just suffer throughout their lives; kind of like a proficiency test), but still I see now that a core problem has been that I perceive others as having more value than myself, for some reason.
!???!
I have to say though, that the depression finally lifted yesterday - and for that I'm grateful - but I know I'll be back down there again at some point in the future, as it's happened too many times now. But my problem, as indicated in my first post, is thanks to a "bash to the head", which has disrrupted the chemical levels in my brain; more so than the "average" (if such a thing exists) head injury.
Now, the following is NOT meant to sound self-pityng, just pointing out the facts, as most people are unaware of symptoms of head injury - but the best I can do is
manage mood by getting adequate rest and not overdoing it. Trouble is, sometimes life just doesn't allow - or prepare you - for that, so then you've just gotta deal and accept the consequences.
Then, because I get *so* happy to have finally come out of a depressive episode, I become elated (akin to a drug induced high), want to take on the world, inevitably overdo things, tire myself out and then we're back to square one.
I almost set myself up again yesterday, but my mum, fortunately, reminded me that I was taking on too much, as next week is a busy week, at which point I stepped back and saw what she was saying. Had she not, the cycle would have once again repeated...
For those in the know, it's semi-symptomatic of bipolar disorder; I'm seeing a psychologist later, fortunately, so I'm gonna put this to him and see what he says.
And with regards to NOT watching celebs; believe me, I don't! Not interested in the slightest. But I do watch the news, for example, and people who achieve feature on that all the time in all shapes and sizes. And just generally, I can find belittlement in anything because of the way my mind works.
Here's an example:
Yesterday I went to my final guitar lesson. I've had a guitar and other instruments for nearly 2 decades, but never had the long term interest in learning to play them; it always waned.
So, post head injury, out comes the mind effectively telling me "if you'd only kpet up the playing, now you've got less to do during the days, you could have been making music". And it just would not stop. Eventually, I tried - twice - to get back into learning, but again, interest waned. But *still*, the "voice" persisted. So I paid £60 for what should have been 5 guitar lessons; not so much to learn, but just so I could say to "the mind"; "ok. I've tried getting lessons; dedicated playing time each week, and STILL wasn't interested in playing. NOW SHUT THE **** UP AND STOP EATING AT ME!!!".
I started off all keen of course, and then didn't go for 3 weeks. Yesterday, I dragged myself there, because I felt I was messing the tutor about, but just couldn't do anything. So I said as much, and we called in quits. He was brilliant and very encouraging about it, fortunately.
So if these are the kind of lengths I have to go to assuage my mind under normal cicumstances, can you imagine what it's like when I'm depressed??
Ok. I've waffled on enough. Thanks for taking the time to read. I gotta go see this psychiatrist. Hell, maybe he might even have me sectioned...
i.